I am done with group checks. Seriously D.O.N.E. I’m over them.
I love the social aspect of dining out with friends. We share plates, we laugh, tell stories, and take pictures, maybe even a little video. I don’t want that social aspect to change in my life because I enjoy the time I have with my friends, esp over drinks and food. But the same thing always happens the check comes and people start to add things up to get to their share, but it doesn’t work out. They round that 15.95 to $15, and the ALWAYS forget tax. Since Price worked in restaurant years ago he has a soft spot for not cheaping the waiter/waitress out of their tip because our group can’t figure out 5th grade math. So we always pay more than our share. Well that’s over. I am pulling myself out of the group check.
I continue to ask myself 1) when will I learn 2) why don’t I have a strong enough voice when it comes to money?
Last night, Price tried to save ourselves from what we knew would happen. He asked the waitress for a seperate check, she said she could split it when the table was done but at this point she wouldn’t be able to. I hate to say but our waitress last night was dumb (and the kitchen was slow and the bartender couldn’t even make shots correctly) and didn’t do this in the end. I should have spoken up when out check came to make her fix it. But I am spineless and didn’t.
So I hurry to identify our items, figure out our share and indicate how much to charge my card on the check. Done… no. Someone else and I start to break things down and realize that we are not yet to where we need to be. We confirm who has paid.. “Did I get your money?” “yep”. Still no bueno. So we now have people throwing in and extra buck here and there, even a 10. We fianlly make the $308.
But something is wrong. Something is bothering me. It’s the fact that I didn’t say anything to the couple who didn’t pay enough- not even to cover their food drinks, let alone tax and tip. It’s still eating at me, clearly. But I should have spoken up then when it mattered. When I could have asked for them to chip in more since they ate WAY more than Price and me. GD we even split an entree so that we would not be spending much.
We end up spending just slightly more than our share. That is not my issue exactly. The thing that is bothering me are the people who really forked over money just to get the checked settled. I feel bad for the person who had only participated in the group shot ($7.50) and ended up paying $15. And the other guy who paid at least $20 over what he should have. I feel bad for them. I feel it is my fault since I did not say anything to this couple.
I’m kicking myself now for not say anything. For only looking at the bigger picture of getting the check paid vs. looking at what people paid. And I don’t want to feel bad after a nice dinner.
So that is why dear friends/family/strangers, I am pulling myself out of group checks. Please don’t take offense when I ask/demand the server for it before we order. And if that can’t happen, please don’t take offense for me to settle my portion first before I get involved with the check.
Rant is done.